Opposite woman question

[PhDhawk]

I don't feel comfortable, and I'm not sure why, asking her about it. What do you think the deal is, especially given that HD can't ride an elevator without hearing about another woman's relationships?

Not sure why you would ask/discuss personal affairs with a co-worker of the opposite sex. Not sure why would care to begin with.

I think I made it pretty clear why.

I interact with this person every single day. We talk about a myriad of topics, she's never once mentioned a relationship, past, current, serious, not serious, that she's single, etc. I know that she worked as a waitress in a pizzeria during HS, I know that she went to an all-girls HS, I know where she went to college, I know that she used to do research on TB, I know that the town she is from is famous for steaming their hamburgers, I know that she has a cat, I know both her father's and mother's profession, I know her political beliefs, I know what musical acts she likes, etc. These are all things she's shared with me.

I'm sorry to hear you've never discussed anything personal with a co-worker before. Sounds like you've never had a friend. Usually in pleasant conversation, personal stuff comes up. "what'd you do this weekend?" "Went to a movie with my boyfriend, you?" "Wife and I went apple picking."

I met my wife at work. I know a lot of people who've done that. I think it's incredibly sad that you don't give a shit about anyone of the opposite sex that you work with. You sound like a sociopath.

[DrPepper]

Shame on you and your amatonormative beliefs. Let her be.

...this is at least the second time you've brought up amatonormative?

It is my new favorite word. It is my duty to teach it. That post was a PSA.

[Deleted User 62]

I don't feel comfortable, and I'm not sure why, asking her about it. What do you think the deal is, especially given that HD can't ride an elevator without hearing about another woman's relationships?

Not sure why you would ask/discuss personal affairs with a co-worker of the opposite sex. Not sure why would care to begin with.

I think it's incredibly sad that you don't give a shit about anyone of the opposite sex that you work with. You sound like a sociopath.

Funniest post on here in a while.

[PhDhawk]

Not sure why you would ask/discuss personal affairs with a co-worker of the opposite sex. Not sure why would care to begin with.

I think it's incredibly sad that you don't give a shit about anyone of the opposite sex that you work with. You sound like a sociopath.

Funniest post on here in a while.

The previous co-worker who worked in the same spot, who I didn't even get along with nearly as well, I still knew her bf/fiance/now husband, and was invited to her wedding. I know the status of everyone else I work closely with, I've met the spouses of every one of my married co-workers. It's something that usually comes up...but I'm weird for noticing that she's never said anything about it.

[MICHHAWK]

...but I'm weird for noticing that she's never said anything about it.

No. But you are weird for caring.

You should familiarize yourself with something called #metomovement. Before you get all swept up in it.

[PhDhawk]

That might be the single dumbest thing anyone besides pwhittemore has posted on this message board. I know the board isn't that old, but still.

[pdub]

There are 362 posts that are dumber than that.

[PhDhawk]

There are 676 posts that are dumber than that.

I didn't count those.

[MICHHAWK]

The woman I work most closely with (physically, we share the same research space) for the past 2 years, is an attractive woman in her mid-20s.

I'm not even sure what her orientation is. She's never mentioned a date, or anything.

I don't feel comfortable, and I'm not sure why, asking her about it. What do you think the deal is?

Follow your first instinct's, and just leave it be. But if you must, be sure to be feeling the fabric of her blouse between your fingers as you are asking her what her "orientation" is.

[PhDhawk]

You're a fucking creep.

[MICHHAWK]

You're a fucking creep.

I'm not the one that started a thread wondering "why I don't know the sexual orientation and sexual history of my attractive co-worker in her mid 20's."

[PhDhawk]

You're a fucking creep.

I'm not the one that started a thread wondering "why I don't know the sexual orientation and sexual history of my attractive co-worker in her mid 20's."

No. I'm the one who asked why would someone not talk about their relationship status.

You made all kinds of assumptions about it because you think that talking to a female is the same thing as sexually assaulting her because #metoo.

[PhDhawk]

I'm sorry that your old tiny brain can't understand that two people of the opposite sex could work together, have a platonic relationship and talk about their personal lives with no consequence or ulterior motives.

I have friendly relationships with a lot of people I work or have worked with and they tell me if they have a date, are married, are single, broke up with someone, etc.

You should try to get a friend some day, I think it'd be healthy for you. Might not make you so pessimistic and negative in every one of your fucking miserable posts.

[pdub]

Are PhD and MICHHAWK rivals from before?
I don't recall.

[jhawks99]

I didn't think so. They don't seem to like each other all that much.

[PhDhawk]

The best part of dotnet was that michhawk didn't post there.

[pdub]

I think there is our answer.

[PhDhawk]

I thought maybe someone would go, "I worked with someone who never mentioned their relationships, turned out he was living a double life and married to two different women." Or, something funny like, "maybe she's tired of always bringing up her boyfriend to creepy guys like HD on the elevator." Or maybe someone would say something scientific. Or give a reasonable explanation for why she's private especially about that specific thing.

Instead I get debby-downer accusing me of sexual assault. Good times.

All this site needed was yet another member of the keepin' you in check gang. Let's make sure we don't ever joke around or have too much fun here.

Fucking politics bored.

[jhawks99]

Hey PhD, you could ask her. In a totally, non threatening non creepy way.

[PhDhawk]

I think I will, I'll report back when I do.

She is organizing a tailgate for the game against Princeton this weekend. My wife and I are going (Oh fuck...I see what you did 99, you little pervert, you just wanted me to mention that I'm married...#metoo) maybe that'd be the place to ask her. I'll just be like, "you remember my wife, did you bring anyone with you?"