Woman Question

[HouseDivided]

Female here. I agree with many of the points that have been mentioned. In particular, I like jfish's point above. Her comment is not meant to push you away nor put you down... just to make it clear that things are platonic. Incidentally, that is exactly the type of conversation you said you are striving for so this is good news.

Thank you. I appreciate the female input. I guess I still just want to know what I'm doing to make her feel like she needs to send that message in the first place. That really bothers me.

I don't think it's you. It's probably the 100 guys who were having a conversation with her previously and then turned it weird.

Thanks. I hadn’t considered that possibility. Makes sense.

[Deleted User 62]

Maybe they feel they'll get a more authentic version of you if the boundary is clearly set.

Female here. I agree with many of the points that have been mentioned. In particular, I like jfish's point above. Her comment is not meant to push you away nor put you down... just to make it clear that things are platonic. Incidentally, that is exactly the type of conversation you said you are striving for so this is good news.

Thank you. I appreciate the female input. I guess I still just want to know what I'm doing to make her feel like she needs to send that message in the first place. That really bothers me.

Fucking hilarious!

[jhawks99]

Dude has his issues. I hope he's sincere in looking for advice here. I'm taking him at his word.

[Deleted User 89]

everyone has issues

[ousdahl]

Some people's boyfriends and husbands are an important part of their lives.
Certainly moreso than a yellow shirt.
I don't know what you look like but from some of the things you post about women and how much you seem to care about your life, it's possible that comes out in interactions and can be sensed by the women you speak to.

I'm a big guy (6'3" 235), and have been told I come off as intimidating - mostly because I am so quiet; hence the attempt to be more talkative. I play my cards pretty close to the vest, so I don't think my inner turmoil leaks out, but could be.

I'm not even all the way through the thread, but I gotta first stop and ask:

yeah, but what's your wingspan?

[PhDhawk]

everyone has issues

I never got into Korn

[Deleted User 75]

lol, it’s easy. Stop coming across like a creep and they won’t mention the boyfriend/husband immediately.

I'm not going to say that's what's happening, but that's exactly what my wife does.